If the words that come out of a person’s mouth do not match their actions and/or voice intonation, it does not carry the same weight leaning towards belief in the other party.

“Your actions speak so loud that i cannot hear what you’re saying.”

Do not misconstrue the difference between being in love which stems from infatuation, possessiveness, and obsession such as talking, holding hands, kissing, and surface feelings. i.e. feeling alone when your partner is around and craving and yearning for their presence all the time and loving someone which goes beyond the physical presence. It is a desire to see them grow, see past their flaws, seeing opportunities for building into each other and together. motivating, encouraging, and inspiring one another. not having to second guess or ask before doing so. It’s 100% commitment on your part. concept of true love is hard to comprehend for some which can be hard in getting the wrong impression when dating someone who completely gets it. they cannot seem to understand why they deserve the love you are giving and can feel one-sided.

Here are a few rules that I use to see the difference

  1. You cannot receive the love you do not have to give.
  2. You must give without condition, want the very best for them, make sacrifices, not keep a record of wrongs, and trust each other completely. But if you love someone who does not understand this, they will never really appreciate all you do but merely see it as emotionally intense and desperate.
  3. Falling in love may not necessarily last long because it is based on infatuation and the moment, lust, or obsession. causing someone to fall in love for selfish reasons and falling out once there are no personal gains.
  4. if you truly desire a goal then there can be no room for a plan B or you will quit the moment things don’t go your way. You have 2 options.
    1. all in(go hard)
    2. or go home

“I’ve never been in the military, but I have a Purple Heart from beating myself up over things I can’t fix” ~ Rudy Francisco